People often ask me if I work with anxiety in children so here’s a story of a 7 year old girl with anxiety.
Anxiety in Children
This girl is terrified and obsessed that she is going to stop breathing and die. She has OCD tendencies and is constantly washing her hands.
She gets strange thoughts and says “they just come by themself” such as making herself sick, although she hasn’t actually followed through on this. There is a family history of Anorexia and Bulimia, and Anxiety. “Will the thoughts go away Anne?” she asked me. I assured her that I would try my very best to make them go away. And I meant it.
Her tummy gets very sore from worrying and she has barely any appetite. She also has asthma. Has a little eczema which flares when the anxiety is bad.
She is very attached to Mum and feels more secure when Mum is around. Going to school is not easy for her as she doesn’t like to leave Mum. She is afraid of getting into trouble in school, even though she is extremely well behaved, and her homework must be absolutely perfect before she can relax.
She is a very intelligent and articulate child and is able to describe her thoughts and symptoms better than most adults. She is very mature and likes to keep busy. She is very sporty and a high achiever in whatever she does. She thrives on routine and likes doing everything in a certain order.
Her birth was very traumatic and she slept very little as a baby. Mum says that she “has never truly relaxed her whole life”.
This case is very interesting and really shows the impact anxiety in children can have. Her imbalance is very much focused on a mental and emotional level, even though she also has some physical symptoms. The remedy would have to be one that focuses on anxiety and fear of dying. There was more detailed information in the case which helped me decide on the best treatment plan but this is a good summary of what was going on.
The remedy chosen was a well know anxiety remedy, especially when people are worrying about the “what ifs”. It is a very good remedy for anxiety in children whose anxiety is around anticipation of what could happen. She was given a potent dose, repeated often. She was also given some tissue salts for support.
She responded particularly well.
Anxiety in Children – with obsession
She came back again after two years, now aged 9. The Anxiety was bad again. She is worried about everything. I asked her what she is anxious about “all the danger issues, my baby sister might choke”. Mum says she is dwelling on everything and is becoming obsessional.
She doesn’t like Mum going to work and finds it hard to sleep at night worrying about this.
Tell me more I asked. “Somebody could set the house on fire. We could die. I think bad things have happened. Then I doubt myself and don’t believe my thoughts”. “I have to tell Mum or Dad, if I don’t then bad things will happen”. Sometimes she will write a note to Mum or Dad explaining this. “Sometimes if I’m feeling OK, I then think maybe I’m not OK”. “I worry about everything in a bad way”. “I’m afraid somebody will kill Daddy”. “I’m worried Mummy will die”. It makes her very sad. And now she is worrying that her anxiety is upsetting Mum and Dad. She doesn’t like being on her own, afraid of being kidnapped.
The anxiety started after the recent birth of her younger sibling.
She has a weird feeling in her stomach, like butterflies.
The obsessional hand-washing has not returned this time.
What is going on? Her predisposition to anxiety has reappeared, possibly triggered by a recent event.
Same remedy was repeated in a higher dose. Again, she responded particularly well.
When Anxiety in Children returns
This girl returned again aged 11 with the same complaint. Anxiety is bad again and is focused on her own health. She is very fearful of dust. She has a cough and is highly anxious that she is going to die from it.
Mum says it is obsessional, she has these irrational fears. She is over-thinking everything.
She is unhappy that Mum is now working some weekends and misses her terribly. One of her grandparents died recently and Mum feels this has triggered the anxiety again.
“It is like a loop and I just can’t stop it”.
Mum says the remedy is “brilliant, she responds so well to it. Every time”.
Again, we see the predisposition to anxiety returning at times of stress. I don’t see any reason to change the remedy for her, but I do think she needs a more potent dose – which can work at a deep level.
The remedy was repeated at a higher potency and again she responded well.
Here’s what this girl’s Mum said about homeopathy
“I brought my daughter who suffers from anxiety to see Anne for a consultation. Her ability to extract information from a worried child while putting her completely at ease is a testament to her expertise as a homeopath and indeed a mother..I would have no hesitation in recommending this lady and indeed have her on speed dial!!!”
This story shows how we can all have a predisposition to particular complaints. These complaints can be physical, emotional or mental. Family traits to certain ailments can also be a factor.
Please read HERE to find out more about my approach to Anxiety.
If you would like to work with me, please book via my online calendar here